Ways to spoil your husband for free!
I see many times that husbands get the leftovers, if there is any, in a woman’s day, and life. But I believe, that shouldn’t be the case. Your husband was there with you first. You fell in love with him! He was there before the kids, and carpool, the Boy Scouts, birthday parties, PTA, and all of the other junk that occupies your busy day. It was just you and him. And he still needs your love and attention. So, today, I’m going to share with you some great ways to spoil your husband for free, to get you started! ❤
I am not saying that you should forget about yourself. I posted about self care a few weeks ago, make sure to read it! It’s super important! And I am in no way saying that you should neglect your kids either. They need you too! However, husbands often get your tired, exhausted, nothing more to give, left overs… and that’s if you don’t pass out from another crazy day before that.
So today, I want to share with you some ideas on how to spoil your husband, for free! Today is all about the free love you can share with him. The free that you can give to him, to let him know he’s still your number one! To say “thank you” or just to show him that you love him, still.
One more little thing before we get started.
I was having a conversation with a woman that I admire very much. She told me a story about her mother, which was a difficult relationship. She told me, “I loved her like she was the mother I wanted her to be.” And I want to share that with you today because, in relationships, things are not always wonderful and perfect. Sometimes stress makes life and relationships tense. Maybe there’s occasional fighting. And maybe there’s times when you don’t necessarily feel loved, or feel like giving love. But I would like to encourage you today, if this is you, in this moment, love him like he’s the husband you want him to be. And, when he feels loved and appreciated by you, he’ll probably reciprocate. 🙂
Dylan and I try to show each other we love and appreciate each other regularly. We made a commitment to each other, and we can either be miserable, or we can do things for each other that we know makes each other happy. And, we choose to do things to make each other happy!
I love when he’s holding my hand, and out of the blue, he brings my hand to his lips and kisses the back of it. This small gesture, along with many others, is just a small way he spoils me. And boy do I feel loved and special in those moments.
But ladies! This one’s for you! Today, I’m sharing tips on spoiling your husband, for free!
Without further ado… Ways to spoil your husband for free!
1. Write him a love note.
This one’s easy. But seriously, when was the last time you actually gave him a love note?!? With technology, you’ve probably sent him a text telling him that you love him or posted on social media how great he is. But, I’d like to encourage you to pull out a piece of paper and write him a little note. Tell him what you love about him, that you’re thankful for him and what he does that makes you feel loved.
I have slipped these little notes in Dylan’s wallet for him to find later when he’s out and about. It’s fun! I just wish I could see the cute little smile that he gets when he’s reading it. 🙂 He also has a note pad on his desk, and when I’m using his office to make a phone call, I’ll leave a little note for him to find later. That little note book has now become just for me to leave him notes. 😊 I leave all of them in there, and some day, he’ll have quite the collection.
2. Give him a neck or back massage.
Dylan loves having his neck massaged. It’s one of his favorite things! I try to lean across the car and massage his neck for a few minutes while he’s driving, or if he’s in his office working, I’ll sneak in and massage his neck for a bit.
Giving a massage or scratch is a super easy way to show love. Most men would love a massage or a head or back scratch, and the fact that he’s receiving it from the woman he loves, awwww! Even better!
3. Cook him his favorite meal or treat.
I love to cook, and Dylan loves to eat. But when I cook him something I know he particularly loves, or bake him some fresh cookies for no reason, I know he enjoys it very much, and it makes him feel loved and special.
Try out these amazing brownies, they’re Dylan’s favorite! It’s especially special if your a girl that doesn’t usually cook or bake.
4. Send him a sexy text.
This one might be kind of hard and might take you out of your comfort zone a little. However, keeping spice and sexy in your marriage is very important to men. Men are visual, and you can do a little, to keep him smiling a lot.
Your text could be a sexy selfie picture. Maybe something that gets his imagination started! Or share a sexy memory that the two of you had, or even a little “can’t wait to see you” will do. Get creative and have fun with it!
5. Always, always, always, kiss him goodbye… And kiss him when he gets home too!
Life is uncertain. You never know what the next moment is going to bring. I never let Dylan leave without kissing him and telling him that I love him. Even if he’s just going to the grocery store. Kiss him!
And maybe a passionate one would be fun. 😉
6. Hug him.
Wrap your arms around him and hold him tight. Hugs release stress and tension and believe it or not, they need them too!
7. Give him a break from the kids.
Lots of moms stay at home with kiddos all day and when the hubs gets home, they rightfully need a break! I get it. I’ve been there. But, you’re husband needs a break too! He works hard and has many stresses too. Pick a time when you can take the kids out and give him a couple of hours at home to himself to do whatever he wants. Send him a text and tell him you’ll be back in a couple of hours and you left his favorite snack and beverage for him to enjoy some down time.
8. Do his favorite activity with him.
If he loves to watch a game on TV, or go golfing, or ride ATV’s and you don’t usually do those things with him, do it! Be with him, have fun, laugh, enjoy yourself, and do it with him! He will enjoy having you with him, but he will enjoy your smile and laugh even more. This picture was of us just before zip-lining. Clearly, not a free activity, however, this is not something I would ever have done for me. 🙂 Get out of your comfort zone. Do something he enjoys and plan it for him, don’t wait for him to ask.
9. Volunteer to help him with something.
Ask him if there’s anything you can do for him, to help make his day easier for him. Just ask, he may tell you no, but, he may surprise you and let you help with something. One question I ask is “How can I support you?” If nothing else, it’ll tell him that you love him enough to ask.
10. Plan a special night at home.
Does your guy like to watch movies, play games or sit in the hot tub? Plan a special evening around something he enjoys doing. Make sure to tailor the activity to him to make him feel special.
Ooooo! A bonus.
If you’re up for spending a few dollars on him, buy him a little something you know he loves, for no reason.
I love to get flowers for no reason, so why not gift him something for no reason?!? What’s your guy love? A new hat? New cologne? An accessory for his car, or for camping, or golf. Whatever he loves, there has to be a little something you could surprise him with, just because. Sometimes I’ll run out and get Dylan a coffee I know he loves and leave it on his desk. It’s just a small gesture that lets him know I was thinking of him.
They’re loved, needed and appreciated too!
Have you been feeling like your hubs needs a little more love and attention from you? I hope you found these ideas helpful and realize the importance of taking care of him.
Even though husbands are the tough, take care of you and the family kind of guys, they like to be loved and pampered too. So what are you going to do to give your hubs a little extra love and attention today? I’m sure you have some additional ideas of free ways to spoil your guy. I’d love if you shared with us in the comments below.